IT’S UP TO YOU!
You’d think by now that the vital work by Erik Erikson and his wife Joan Erikson, The Life Cycle Completed (Extended Version), would have taken hold in our society with wide acceptance that our Silver Years are a dynamic stage of life complete with new plans, goals, and ambitions. But instead, our society would rather have us just fade out into the sunset after our 50’s. Well, “Hogwash!” to that!
In my book, Aging Gracefully with Dignity, Integrity & Spunk Intact: Aging Defiantly, I provide a practical guide, a ‘road map’ of sorts, for fully engaging in life while debunking myth after myth about aging. Whatever you do, don’t panic about being another year older than you were last year. Learning is a lifelong experience.
Learning doesn’t stop because you’re in your 50’s or older. More than likely, the one stopping you from excelling and fully engaging in life, is you. Bring yourself up-do-date with the 21st Century and the new advances in aging gained in science, medicine and technology.
And make sure you learn how to handle those annoying people who just can’t help themselves from taking jab after jab at you because of a number you own and that they’re afraid of.
Don’t go overboard about memory loss. My suggestion to you is that if you can't remember a word – just substitute it with another. And don’t worry about impressing anyone with the word you decide to use as the substitute. Just get your thought out.
And for Pete’s-Sake, quit letting people interrupt you. There’s no need for you to be polite while being bullied. Just because you’re not in the boxing ring together, constant interruption, constant line stepping, is rude. It’s a form of intimidation – a form of bullying. And you don’t have to take it.
Empower yourself every day. Focus on your brain’s health and over all well being. Make the changes you need to do in order for you to be at your optimum. You don’t have to do everything all at once and master everything before the day’s done. But make sure you keep on yourself to improve yourself for the better, a little bit at a time, every day.
Remember: sure and steady steps make progress to success. It’s up to you to embrace a new you. You can Age Gracefully, Defiantly and with Spunk Intact!
Suzette Haden Elgin, Ph.D.’s, You Can’t Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse….